Day 55- Yesterday a notification popped up on my phone from me having his number saved that I had saved from seeing it on our court documents, apparently he has created a completely fake profile going by a totally different first and last name on Snapchat. I have so many mixed feelings because for me this means A.) He created a fake Snap to talk to women or B.) He could have started looking for me. Neither one of these feel good and I don’t want to really know. In our state we have to be separated for a year before filing anything divorce wise but knowing that he could be trying to do whatever before that despite of me having a PFA in place, absolute worst feeling ever.
Last updated on:2025-08-19T06:42:56+05:30
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what hits me is how the notification came from the number you had saved from court stuff. like even the most boring detail, paperwork, ends up tying you back to him. you didn’t go looking, it came to you.
yea honestly any communication I did have was one time because it was a legal matter and I had used a Text now number so he didn’t have my changed number but his number was real. Apparently he used it to sign up for Snapchat instead of email for whatever reason. Honestly I am just still kinda shook because that’s the very last place I had ever expected him to pop in at. I had a Snap to keep in contact with family from time to time but he didn’t have one at all. It just feels cruel.
hat sounds exhausting. your chest probably dropped when you saw it. i remember when i found out mine was on apps right after we split, it felt like he erased me overnight. i didn’t want details either, it just hurt.
that’s exactly how it felt. I bawled after the kids were asleep, I thought I had done a good job blocking out what I could but I still miss who I thought we could be. Like when is he going to actually miss us and the children he was helping raise? 😭
i’d lose my mind seeing that pop up. fake name, secret account, like he thinks he’s slick. it’s shady either way, doesn’t matter if it’s for girls or for you. i hated how my ex always acted like rules didn’t apply to him.
Its tough its like your phones your worst eneny and not a safe space especially when with notifications, I get a knot in my stomach when i get phone calls
I also completely left Facebook and blocked him on email but still was super hard.