I used to be a plant lover. Had over 20 plants that I used to take care of while I was living with my ex, i ve asked her to help me water them in that time and taught her how, but she was always over watering them and she would be like "who cares, it s just a plant" . While I was struggling with my mental health half of them died unfortunately(even my favorite monstera obliqua) and the other half I gave them to my family. Today I got a new one, starting small and easy and I'm happy to do it again.
Last updated on:2025-08-21T01:44:02+05:30
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sounds like the plants became tied to the time with her, then the loss of them mirrored the mess you were in. starting with one now feels like you’re separating the hobby from the past.
I was a plant lover way before I knew her, just couldn't had them at my dorms( weird policy). But yeah, those plants that I loved a lot had a connection with her since I got them while I was with her and asked which ones she would like.
when my spider plant died while i was in a bad place, i cried like it was a person. getting a new one felt like giving myself a little second chance. i’m glad you’re starting again too.
Yeah, i felt so bad when my monstera died, that I would just stare at the pot for a long time and my ex would say to stop wasting my time when we could just buy another..I just kept staring and ignored her
my ex used to laugh when i cared about my plants too. said i was overreacting. it made me feel stupid for caring about anything. still pisses me off how someone can wreck something you love and not even blink.
When you do something that upsets them in regards to what they love it s the end of the world even when you didnt mean to or you are sorry about it, but when they do it it s brushed off.