I was in a relationship för 2.5 years. He was also my coworker. It was lovley in the beginning. We went on trips, had so much fun but 6 months in he took my Phone away from me. I was to afraid to ask why but asked him 3 days later. He said it never happend, that I was mentally ill. Everytime he was gaslighting me , we after went out to dinner or went on small holidays. I begain to search his name on Google and saw he had a criminal record from his other job he had before. He stole money from a client in psyciatric care were he worked. His response were he needed money and didnt want to ask his friends or siblings. I trusted him and every time i discovered a new lie , he blamed it on me. My reaction to HIS behaviour were always my fualt. When I cryed, he smiled and looked so satisfyed. It was scary, he looked scary when he tilted his head and loved seeing my uncomfortable or sad. He also started to hide his phone. Never had any signal on and always put it away when I came near. To others he was a great guy and helped everyone. I finally talked to all my coworkers and his cusin about him. I know he is going to do this to other and other work places. I am so confused. We could of had a great life together and a happy life but he couldnt stop lying and manipulate me and others but they didnt know it. As a coping skill he begain to drink. I am so confused. I were always at fault, he never said im sorry or took resposability för what he did.
Last updated on:2025-08-21T09:38:14+05:30
Comments (6)
He sounds like a narcissist. Be glad you got away from him. He's not the kind of person you want in your life. I'd say you dodged a bullet!
the way you said coworkers and cousin know now, that feels like a big shift. before it was just you holding all the weirdness. now it’s out there, not only in your head.
i get the confusion. mine had two sides too, the one everyone thought was kind and the one i got at home. i kept thinking if i was different maybe the good side would stay. it never did.
For how long did you stay in the relationsship?
Did you notice that he didnt even look like himself ? That smile scared me. I could se how much he liked me being sad.
that smile thing made my stomach turn. mine did that too, like he enjoyed me breaking down. i still hate that image in my head, how he looked when i cried. it sticks worse than the words.