As of today, it’s been 40 days of no contact. I still miss him a lot, but I try to remind myself of all the emotional abuse that I endured during the relationship. I have been doing a lot of journaling about the red flags about him that I overlooked and what my hopes are for the future for myself. I’ve been struggling with a lot of rumination and intrusive thoughts about what he’s doing, who’s he with, and if he still thinks of me or misses me the way I miss him. I try to remind myself that he is no longer my problem, and that I deserve peace more than I need answers. I hope that one day I’m able to fully move on and focus on myself, and that better out there awaits for me.
Last updated on:2025-08-29T21:50:23+05:30
Comments (6)
the way you wrote about reminding yourself he’s not your problem anymore stood out. that’s what usually shifts over time. first it’s a reminder, then eventually it just feels true without effort.
Yes, thank you. Definitely looking forward to when it feels true without effort
i remember journaling the same way, writing down every bad thing just so i wouldn’t forget when the missing him got too loud. it really did help me see that missing someone doesn’t erase how badly they treated me.
Yes, exactly. The journaling definitely helps as a reminder.
40 days felt like nothing for me too. i kept checking his socials like an idiot, picturing him with someone else. i hated that he still lived in my head rent free after all the crap he put me through.
Yes, same here. It’s been difficult to resist checking his socials and mutual friends’ socials