Was it a red flag?

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I have this question, that keeps bugging me since we broke up. So my ex made it very clear she hates men, but I was the exception and that thing kind of felt wrong with me. Of course after she broke up with me, no longer the exception and I am like other men. How come I was the exception, it was her first ever relationship?

Last updated on:2025-09-01T18:54:21+05:30

Comments (9)

domio
domio 6 mths ago

sounds like she put you in a role for a while, then once it ended you were back in the same category she started with. i saw the same pattern with my ex, the words only mattered while i fit the part.

AlexHadADay
AlexHadADay 6 mths ago

Yes and I find it as a hypocrisy. And I hate when someone doesn't take accountability for their hypocrisy as she did with a lot of things.

novelpeek
novelpeek 6 mths ago

being someone’s first felt huge to me too, then later it felt like i was just erased. i still remember sitting there wondering if any of it was even real.

AlexHadADay
AlexHadADay 6 mths ago

it did felt huge, but her projecting her trauma and her problems onto me when I was struggling through severe anxiety and depression wasn't exactly fine from her, was barely holding on to not lose it, she didn't care tho lol

Bunnylobe
Bunnylobe 6 mths ago

yeah i had that too. she swore i was different, special, the only one. then the second it ended i was just like everyone else, nothing. made me feel used.

AlexHadADay
AlexHadADay 6 mths ago

yeah, idk. I felt trapped in a conditional box, making me feel special, then dropped in a pile like I was nothing.

ZenLight24
ZenLight24 6 mths ago

you were a exception maybe cuz u treated her well and she felt comfortable with you but no you have broken up it might not be the case anymore

JoyfulMe753
JoyfulMe753 6 mths ago

no It was not

AlexHadADay
AlexHadADay 6 mths ago

How so?