it's been about 3 months since the breakup and honestly I think I've been handling it well lately. I do feel a lot more free and happy. But school has started up again, and luckily I got no classes with him and I don't even see him in the halls 90% of the time. honestly, it's been pretty good and I feel a lot more comfortable with myself too, so far senior year is great. But there's one thing that still kinda messed with me. So my ex and I had this friend group(who they were his friends first) and so after the breakup, none of them even reached out to ask if I was okay, one reached out but it sounded really forced and she didn't even ask me if I was okay, she was just acting like everything was normal. So I got used to the idea of not having them anymore because 1 they were his friends first and 2 I never really felt like I belonged with them anyway and I was wanting to kinda distance from some of them already because of some issues that occured. So now, it's the next school year and I have some classes with them, but now they all hate me now. Like I sent one of them a message(which I assume she shared with all of them) that like I don't really feel comfortable around them anymore and stuff like that and she said she understood and we said goodbye as that would be our last conversation. So I thought that it ended pretty civil, like we're no longer friends but like we could still acknowledge each other every once in a while or something like that. But instead all of them have just completely turned on me and are acting like they hate me now when I've done nothing. If anything I feel like the situation should be reversed, but I don't hate them. They just aren't people I want to keep in my life due to multiple reasons, but this still kind of hurts because it makes me think like what lies did they or he make up about me for them to be acting this way?
Last updated on:2025-09-02T23:07:02+05:30
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you already knew they weren’t your people, but the cold shoulder still cuts. you wanted civil, they wanted distance. it happens a lot when the group forms around the ex.
thank you both of you. I've been kind of struggling lately to let out my thoughts because I couldn't find the right people to listen, but this helps me feel less alone because we've all come from a somewhat similar place
i had that too, where his friends just disappeared and acted like i didn’t exist. it stung even when i knew deep down they were never really mine. it’s ok that it still hurts, losing the group feels like another breakup.
my ex’s friends iced me out too. one day we were hanging, next day i was a ghost. i kept thinking what lies were being spread because the way they looked at me felt so fake. made me wanna scream cause i knew i didn’t do shit.