My boyfriend and I who were together for almost 2 years broke up a few days ago. I'd say it was a pretty normal almost healthy breakup. We both cried a bit and I told him I didn't want to be in the relationship anymore so he could work on himself though he did say a few mean things. My decision was final though. We had little to no contact for the last few months after a bad argument where he crossed my boundaries. When I confronted him he immediately apologized but I just couldn't forgive him. It was too much especially since he knows me so well but still chose to use those words.
I was hurt and couldn't see a future for us. So after a few meetings and talks I decided to end things for good. I still love him very very much; he was the most important person in my life. That's why I cry every day barely eat and feel completely helpless. I miss him so much and don't know what to do. Before the breakup I was sure of my decision and while I cried sometimes it wasn't as hard as it is now. Did I do the right thing? Should I reach out and tell him how much I miss him? Or is it time to move on?
Last updated on:2025-09-04T02:38:02+05:30
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you were steady before the breakup, then once it was final the weight came in harder. i’ve seen that happen, the decision feels clear in the moment, then the absence makes it twist in your chest after.
loving him and still knowing i couldn’t keep going. i thought the pain after would mean i was wrong, but really it just showed how much i cared. it’s normal you miss him, even if the breakup made sense.
i kept asking myself that same question, did i screw up by leaving. i cried til my eyes hurt, felt like i ripped my own skin off. missing him didn’t mean he deserved me back. it just meant i was bleeding from the choice i made
Try 30 days no contact first.
It really depends on what you truly want. We don't know enough about the relationship to tell you if you did the right thing or not. If you do want to get back together, forgiving him and establishing boundaries is the first step. If you don't, try to do no contact, and eventually it will get easier so you can move on.
i think no contact is something which really brings clarity. sometimes, it makes us realise that maybe we didn’t need them that bad.