ohhhh i was doing soooo good. 5 days no contact then everything went wrong. for the first time in a long time, i didnt work or have kids for 4 days. Usually i work 7 days a week AND have the kids as I work from home. I've mentionned in my previous posts that the ex i'm trying to get over is a homeless drug addict. I was doing soooo good, holding on at 5 days without contact. Second day of no work or kids, even though I knew it was a bad idea, I messaged to make sure he was ok. He was having a rough go so we went out for coffee to chat. He admitted to being incredibly depressed and after trying so hard numerous time to get sobber, he said he no longer wanted to, he didn't see the point. I figured, if i can bring him just a bit of positivity, he won't be so miserable (hense why we dont work out).. i also offered to do his laundry. I did his laundry sunday with every intention of just dropping it off this morning and coming home for my last day off... spent 6 hours in town, driving him around as I felt thats the only time we have in debt good conversations (texting is pointless). I poored my heart out to him, I don't know what came over me but I had to remind him that we can't be together because I refuse to let that lifestyle anywhere near my kids and that his "friends/street family" don't love him as they give him the stuff thats slowly killing him, when he overdoses, they rob him and leave him. i also told him that if ever he went missing, the only reason anyone else would notice would be for lack of drug supply where as I would notice because I love him so much. I feel so stuck. If i let him go and something happens, even though I did what I could, I feel like i'm the only person whos never given up on him. he hasnt had family or a home since he was 15, now 32. he does everything for everyone and only gets screwed in return. i'm going crazy. I can't save him, I can't force him to get sobber, if I stop contact and something happens, he has no one. ive tried for a year to let him go, attached to this idiot for 3 years but no matter what I do, i just can't seem to let him go.
Last updated on:2025-09-04T08:35:29+05:30
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My ex left me for drugs too, and honestly, no matter how much you want them to get better girl that’s not your place. You have to worry about you and your kids. You never know the mind of a drug attic one day he could be good the other day you were one of your kids could catch him overdosing and that would traumatize them for life. You have to think about you and pray pray for him, especially and if you are going to hang out with him, the best advice I could give is to convince him to go to church if your religious.
he is not allowed near the kids until/if he gets sobber. i would never involve my kids in such a mess.
My ex left me for drugs too, and honestly, no matter how much you want them to get better girl that’s not your place. You have to worry about you and your kids. You never know the mind of a drug attic one day he could be good the other day you were one of your kids could catch him overdosing and that would traumatize them for life. You have to think about you and pray pray for him, especially and if you are going to hang out with him, the best advice I could give is to convince him to go to church if your religious.
you get a break, then fill the empty space with him again. the gap between knowing it won’t work and still showing up is where you’re stuck.
telling my ex almost the exact same thing, that i’d be the only one to notice if something happened. it’s such a hard truth to carry, loving someone who doesn’t care for themself.
i used to drag myself back like that. doing laundry giving rides pouring out everything. i felt like shit after every time because it never changed anything just drained me.