Our 18 months together were perfect. We never fought never raised our voices and always enjoyed each other's company. I honestly thought I'd found my match and we had no compatibility issues except for the fact that she wasn't into long distance. We're both in community college but she just moved into her university six hours away. I had planned on joining her a year later but if not we would've done two years of long distance which of course is tough. We talked about how long distance might not work but I was under the impression she was willing to try. I even drove her to her university to help her move in and said my goodbyes planning to see her again in three weeks.
Five days went by and everything seemed okay until the day before yesterday and yesterday. Her texts were odd and she wasn't picking up the phone like she normally would. The next day she called me on FaceTime and broke up with me. It hurt so much I'm still in disbelief as I'm writing this. I kept asking why? why so soon? Why not try? Why is being single easier when we had it so good? She said I'm not in it as much as you are which I think meant she wasn't committed to the long-distance idea. Then she added I am not beholden to you and while I agreed I couldn't understand what that had to do with anything. Of course I got emotional and begged for a few minutes but she just sat there on the screen with no tears. She said I wish the best for you and then hung up cutting me off as she saw me cry for the first time ever.
I called and texted her too many times right after refusing to believe it happened so fast. She just doesn't want a long-distance relationship and wants to be more independent which is a choice she should have made months ago as she said she'd been thinking about it ever. Ultimately it's her choice but it hurts so bad. It feels fake because we were so good together and I truly thought we were at least worth a shot. She waited until she was six hours away to hide behind a phone screen and cut ties. Why even bring me and my family along to help her move in the first place? I'm so sad and so hurt I hate this so much. To top it off my first day of the fall semester starts today. The timing is so unfair.
Last updated on:2025-09-03T20:23:02+05:30
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i remember dropping him off at school and feeling proud of him. a week later he ended it over the phone. i cried the whole drive to class that day. it’s brutal when you had no idea they were already planning to leave.
It sounds like you're going through a really tough time right now. Breakups are always hard, but it can be especially painful when you feel blindsided and didn't see it coming.
One thing that might help is to try to understand that people's feelings and needs can change over time. It's possible that your girlfriend wasn't ready for a long-distance relationship and didn't know how to tell you.
It's also worth considering that her behavior during the breakup, such as being distant and unemotional, might be a reflection of her own emotional state rather than a personal attack on you.
As for why she might have brought you along to help her move in, it's possible that she was trying to be kind and appreciative of your support, even if she had already decided that the relationship wasn't going to work.
It's okay to feel sad and hurt right now. Allow yourself to process your emotions and grieve the loss of the relationship. You might find it helpful to talk to friends, family, or a therapist about how you're feeling.
Remember that you're starting a new semester today, and that can be a fresh start for you. Try to focus on your own goals and well-being, and see if you can find ways to make this transition a positive one for yourself.
i had that same facetime breakup. her face cold no tears while i was begging. i kept thinking why plan all that stuff with me if she was already halfway out. it felt like i was some last errand she needed done before being free.
I'm sorry. It sounds like she's having a great Fresher's Fortnight.
Best to get out now than to find out later.