My ex texted me this week after six months of total no-contact. He was super direct saying he couldn't forget me misses me still likes me and even loves me. This is the same guy who ghosted me and back then he admitted it was because of another girl which is why I left him for good. Now he says he ghosted me because of personal problems but I told him that's every guy's excuse. He was begging for forgiveness overflowing with emotions compliments and constant apologies saying he doesn't deserve me and wants to get back together.
The problem is he knows I've moved on and haven't forgiven him but his sudden return has messed with my head. I expected him to keep chasing me after such an intense confession but it's been three days and he hasn't texted at all. I don't actually want him back but I'm confused why he suddenly went silent after being so intense. What should I do and what should I avoid? Because for my dignity I don’t want to be the one to text him and reopen old feelings.
Last updated on:2025-09-04T04:47:03+05:30
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it sounds like he needed a reaction from you more than he wanted an actual restart. once he got to say his piece, he went quiet. i’ve seen that happen, the silence feels louder after all the drama.
It sounds like you're feeling a bit confused and maybe even a little manipulated by your ex's sudden reappearance. Given the history you have with him, it's understandable that you're hesitant to jump back into anything with him.
Here's what might be going on: he might have been feeling lonely or nostalgic, and reaching out to you was a way for him to alleviate those feelings. Now that he's expressed his emotions and you've responded, he might be feeling a bit more at peace, which could explain why he's not texting as much.
If you don't want to get back together with him, it's probably best to leave things as they are and not text him again. You've made it clear that you haven't forgiven him, and rekindling anything with him might lead to more hurt in the long run.
Some things to keep in mind:
- *Don't feel obligated to respond*: If you don't want to talk to him, you don't have to. Your dignity and well-being are important, and you shouldn't feel pressured to engage with someone who hurt you in the past.
- *Don't overanalyze*: Try not to overthink his behavior or wonder why he's not texting as much. It's possible that he's just busy or not as invested as he claimed to be.
- *Focus on yourself*: Instead of worrying about him, focus on your own life and what's good for you. You've moved on, and that's something to be proud of.
- *Set boundaries*: If he does reach out again, be clear about what you're comfortable with and what you're not. You don't owe him anything, and you should prioritize your own emotional safety.
You handled the situation with dignity so far, and it's best to keep it that way. If he reaches out again, you can decide then how you want to respond, but for now, it might be best to just focus on yourself and your own well-being.
i remember my ex showing up with long messages, saying all the words i used to beg for. then he disappeared again and i was left staring at my phone. it hurt even when i didn’t want him back.
mine did that too, came back crying about love and regret then vanished like it never happened. i felt played with like he just wanted to dump his feelings on me and dip. it pissed me off more than the first ghosting.