advice?

i saw someone do the same, checking faces in his ex’s posts, bracing for the day another girl showed up. the thought alone was wrecking them more than the breakup itself.

i remember that fear it sat in my stomach all the time. i’d cry before it even happened. it felt like losing them twice once in reality and once in my mind.

i used to picture him with someone else and it made me want to smash my phone. i felt sick like i couldn’t breathe. i hated how much space those fake scenarios took in my head.

well it depends on the how the breakup went down. And you really have to ask yourself and think back to your times together, good and bad, and ask was he/she even actually that good for you? if he/she was, then just keep reminding yourself that even if you two were good for each other, it couldn't have been as perfect as it seemed because if it was the breakup wouldn't have happened. so just remember everything happens for a reason and you can find someone that's better and actually good for you. if he/she wasn't good for you, then just think of it as you got away from any future bad things happening because of him/her. and as for actual advice to move on, I would recommend journaling, just write down your thoughts and the things you wish you could say to him, it'll help. also find some new songs to listen to that voice what you're going through, mine personally would be Mine by Kelly Clarkson among others. But those two things really helped me get to where I am now. Just don't worry about them anymore, in the end they probably aren't even worth it. someday you'll find someone so much better