I was going through depression and she came along, it felt perfect, everything was amazing but she never truly got over her ex and I was just to fill the space for the time being. it hurts so much cause I fell in love with her and I was just Substitution. I really can’t move on and it hurts deeply.
Last updated on:2025-09-04T23:01:02+05:30
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you gave her everything while she was still looking backwards. i’ve seen that before, the way someone becomes a placeholder without even knowing it. no wonder moving on feels impossible right now.
i know that pain. i remember loving someone who was still carrying someone else in their heart. it broke me when i realized i wasn’t who they wanted. it’s ok that it still hurts for you.
same thing happened with me. i was so deep in it and later realized i was just a stand in. felt like my love was trash to her. i still get bitter when i think about how used i felt.
You can move on, but it takes time, a lot actually. It's hard in the beginning when you replay everything and anything. Whenever you feel bad and really down, head out for a walk in the park or nearby forest if you have any, take a notebook and write everything you feel and what are your achievemens for the day. It's not your fault for her problems, you need to know that. Be kind to yourself :)
my ex did the same to me. he had multiple past crushes in the past, all of whine are his current friends and I'm quite sure he never got over a single one of them. and he used me because he saw me as an easy target to get someone to actually go out with him. it sucks, but over time you will get better. it's been about 3 months for me, and i still end up spotting him at school once a day, but I've never felt better. Just give it time and you will heal from this and just remember that there is someone out there for you who will genuinely love you for you. you just have to be patient.