We dated for about seven months but she was my best friend for a year before that. She's the only girl I've ever dated and honestly the only one I've ever had feelings for. I broke up with her for personal reasons and I've regretted it every single day since. I can't believe how much I still miss her. She's married now and I'm still here alone just imagining a life where she's in it.
Does anyone have any advice or can help me figure out what's wrong with me? It feels pathetic that this is still hurting so much after all this time. I'm genuinely at the point of debating ending it all; the pain just gets worse as time goes on. I miss her so so much.
Last updated on:2025-09-05T00:00:05+05:30
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the breakup froze u in that time. she built a future you are still living in the old one. i’ve seen that before it makes every day feel like a reminder instead of something new.
i remember feeling like i’d never care for anyone else. i kept replaying memories until they didn’t even feel real anymore. it hurt so much but it made sense why it lingered. she mattered to me too.
watched her move on post wedding pics have a life i thought would be mine. felt like i ruined everything and there was no way back. i wanted to disappear most nights.
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I am really sorry to hear that you're going through so much pain. I know how hopeless and draining it feels to be in such a situation.
But my genuine advice would be to get professional help. I started talking to a psychologist 3 weeks ago (after my break up I had very dark thoughs as well) and it has changed my perspective so much!
It's ok to be sad, but there's help that you can get. You don't have to go through this alone. You still have a life to live and there are many beautiful things ahead of you. You just can't see them, yet. But trust me when I tell you that this is true. Please get some help! People love you and care about you. The pain is only temporary even if you can't believe it right now. But trust me, I have been there.