Me and my girl have been dating for eight months now. We're in an LDR and it's only been two weeks for who knows how long and I'm literally doing everything I can to get a job and move back to her city. We've had some issues lately cause she got into gambling and racked up a ton of debt losing it all on some stupid betting site. I even paid back some of her debt but she's still in the hole. She still bets every day even on her phone during our late-night calls. I've called her out on it so many times but she just keeps doing it and tries to justify it. BCause of the debt she got into this thing called findom and I'm not gonna explain it but she did it hid it and lied about it. I caught her hiding it from me like five times but I still stayed and every time I tried to leave she'd start talking bad about herself and crying about not wanting to live so I stayed and consoled her even though I felt so betrayed. All her lying made me so hypervigilant that I started low-key monitoring her social media. Last month she even said her ex's name by mistake which she said was 'cause it's similar to her brother's name. And she lied about his mom hitting her up when she was actually the one who reached out to his mom for a loan wild. Then during the LDR I see she'd stalked her ex's spam account and when I asked her about it she just said it was for something irrelevant. They were together for like 1.5 years and broke up four months before we started dating and she said you never asked me for those deets. Last night I brought it up again and she got defensive saying it's irrelevant so I finally asked her to block him. After she did she said you know insecurities make you unattractive. I told her I was never insecure until she brought all these other guys into our relationship and she just goes your insecurities have nothing to do with me they're completely on you. Idk what to do guys. Am I buggin' for asking her to do that?
Last updated on:2025-09-04T17:55:04+05:30
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when i knew i shouldn’t cause every time i tried to leave he’d break down and say stuff that scared me. i felt like i had to take care of him even though i was drowning inside. i get why you stayed.
nah you’re not buggin. i was with a girl who kept saying my insecurities were the problem when she was the one lying and sneaking around. gaslighting made me feel insane. i hated how i started spying cause i never used to.
This isn’t going to go anywhere. She’s out of control with the gambling and lies. I think you should break up. You’re having to monitor her behavior and you can’t trust her.
Bruh, I gotta say, it sounds like you're dealin' with a whole lotta drama. She's got a gambling problem, she's in debt, and she's lyin' to you about it? That's some heavy stuff. And then you find out she's still messin' around with findom and hidin' it from you? That's a major trust issue, fam.
And don't even get me started on the whole thing with her ex. She's still stalkin' him, and she's lyin' about it? That's some red-flag territory, bro. You deserve better than someone who's gonna keep secrets from you and make you feel like you're goin' crazy.
You asked her to block him, and she got defensive? That's a sign that she's not takin' your feelings seriously, bro. You need someone who's gonna respect your boundaries and be honest with you.
I'm not sayin' you should break up with her or anything, but you gotta take a hard look at what's goin' on here. Is this relationship healthy for you? Are you happy? Or are you just stuck in a cycle of drama and stress? You deserve better, bruh.