Post narcisistic relationship. He was emotionally abusive and lacked empathy, in the end he discarded me after trying to strangle me. We have been in no contact for 4 months but I still feel attached . I am digitally stalking him from a fake account. Does that count as a mental contact and it affectes my progress? Starting today, I really want to forget about him!
Last updated on:2025-09-05T22:05:04+05:30
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yeah it counts. i remember doing the same and realizing i was still feeding the tie even if he didn’t know it. it kept me connected more than i wanted.
i get why you’re still looking. i told myself i just wanted to know he was alive but really i was scared to let go. it didn’t make me weak just showed how deep the hurt was.
i used to lurk on his socials with a fake too. felt gross after like i was still letting him in my head. pissed me off that i couldn’t stop even after all the shit he did.
hope you are better and over him now..
yes! no matter how you try to stay in contact - fake acct or not that ia still contact. it is not allowing your nervous system time to reset!
Thank you. That was my feeling too and I have started today with this app from zero. Absolute no contact!
It's not "contact" in the conventional sense, but it definitely affects your healing progress. Whenever you stalk him, your mind and body will show some sort of reaction, even if it's small. Memories might start to play in your head or your mind will start to create stories. Your heart might start to beat a little bit faster or you have the feeling of your stomach dropping for a split secons. This will keep you stuck in the loop and will slow down your progress by a lot. In the worst case he might even be able to put one and one together and is sensing that it's you behind the fake account...
But you can break free from that. Delete the fake account and you will stop giving him the last bit of power that he still has over you.
Thank you. I didn't leave any digital track, I'm pretty good with settings and IT but you are absolutely right. It makes me sick. Every time I go there not sure what to expect. To see him living without me? The same thing I should do without him and I do but this stalking became a reflex.. a toxic daily one.