So basically we're in full contact. We admitted we still like each other but he just really wants to be okay with his own mental health before being with me, which is great. But, a part of me is worried he won't chose to come back, he left me once and I am worried I am going to wait around and he won't come back. I know everyone is going to say to leave him that it's not worth it, but I have so much love for him I genuinely can't leave him, I don't have the strength, and I am so confused on what I should do what he really wants, will he come back? This whole things is making my healing almost non existent and I'm worried I'm going to get very hurt here, but at the same time, if things work out we both still love each other so much and want to be a better person for each other so I'm just so confused on what to do and what is the right thing to do because I am afraid of this ending very poorly.
Last updated on:2025-09-06T06:02:05+05:30
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you’re carrying two things at once love for him and fear he won’t return. that back and forth makes it tough to even know what healing looks like for you right now.
i hear the love in what you wrote. i remember holding on to someone even when it hurt because the love was stronger than my fear. it’s so hard when your heart doesn’t match what your head tells you.
i waited once too. he said he needed space needed to get better first. i sat around scared to move in case he came back and i missed it. he never did. i felt like an idiot wasting months on someone who already let me go.
well I think it's a good idea to take some space as he is working out things of his own. However, I would recommend that you think about some things...
1. why and what do you love about him? Do you really love him or do you live the idea of taking care of him to make him a better person?
2. I would sit down with him and just talk about all of this. like does he too want to eventually get back with you, is he unsure or hesitant about it?
3. is it really what you want? Do you believe that you're ready for the relationship when it comes, emotionally and physically?
Whatever you two choose on doing, just make sure you're making that decision for you and not the other person.
But also remember that it's not your job to "fix" either. And don't put your life on hold just for him, especially when it's so uncertain.
And if he's uncertain about wanting to get back with you eventually, then he may even be hesitant on the question if he'll even be able to better himself for you and for himself.
Don't put all of your strength into making this relationship work when it hasn't even started yet. focus on yourself, heal and enjoy your life.