My ex and I broke up this past June after being together for 2.5 years right after I graduated college. We met in school but he graduated a year before me so we did long-distance for a year. I stood by him while he figured out his life after graduating but now that it's finally my turn he just walked away. I thought this summer would be our time to finally reunite and see each other more often especially since we only lived 30 minutes apart. We had been spending a lot of time together and things felt completely normal even great. I was so excited to finally see him consistently without the distance betwen us.
Then out of nowhere during what I thought was going to be a cute date he broke up with me. It was so sudden and cold. We were in a public place so I couldn't even say everything I wanted. He didn't cry or hesitate; he just left and I felt like I didn't even recognize him in that moment.
Since then I've been stuck in this awful limbo—heartbroken missing my best friend and wondering how he could walk away so easily after everything. I hate that he's still in my dreams and on my mind every single day. I miss the little routine we had having someone to talk to every night and the comfort of knowing he was there. But it's not just him I miss; I miss his family who always made me feel like I belonged. I loved them deeply and losing them feels like losing a whole other part of my life. There's such a gap in my heart without them and I've never felt this lonely. The post-grad depression was already bad but this breakup has made it even worse.
I know this was long so I really appreciate it if you read the whole thing. I guess I'm just looking for some advice or hope. My biggest fear is that it's going to be really hard to meet someoe outside of a university setting. I really thought he was going to be the guy I married and I wouldn’t have to worry about meeting anyone else but now I am so incredibly lost and sad.
Last updated on:2025-09-06T01:38:02+05:30
Comments (3)
it sounds like you kept holding space for him while he figured himself out. then when it was your turn he bailed. i’ve seen that play out before. it doesn’t make the shock any less but it does explain why you feel blindsided.
missing his family almost as much as him. sunday dinners little jokes that made me feel part of something. when it ended it felt like i got erased from more than just his life. that loss is real. i’m sorry you’re carrying that.
my ex dumped me in a restaurant too. i sat there smiling like an idiot cause i didn’t want strangers watching me fall apart. he acted like i was just another appointment on his schedule. i couldn’t believe how cold it was after everything i gave.