I'm writing this to vent...
This morning my single friend sent me a screenshot of the Hinge profile of my ex.
It doesn't even really affect me that he's already back on dating apps, I am well aware of that this is just a distraction for him. Not surprised at all.
But the fact that he stated he's looking for "long-term commitment" when he broke up with me saying that he doesn't want to be in a relationship right now (and if he wanted to, I'd be the girl he would want to be with) makes me so mad.
He even stated he is "open for kids" when he all the time told me that he never ever wants to have kids and we were on the same page about that. According to him his last 2 relationships ended because his ex girlfriends wanted to have kids. I don't get it.
I am so angry and confused, wondering if he's been lying to me all the time or if he's just "advertising" a false version of himself on the dating app.
He always was claimed that he is such an honest, honorable person with great values. How can he have such a twisted image of himself?
When I saw that screenshot I immediately got the impulse to call him out on his bs.
But I wouldn't even know if he'd be saying the truth if I did. I also swore to myself to stick to no contact this time.
It's getting better and better with every single day that passes, but this was a huge trigger for me...
Last updated on:2025-09-06T06:58:03+05:30
Comments (4)
what you saw showed two versions of him that don’t match. the one he presented to you and the one he’s advertising online. that mismatch is what made you angry not just the profile itself.
i get why that screenshot cut deep. i once saw my ex’s profile saying he was looking for serious love while i was still hurting from him walking away from me. it felt so unfair. i had to remind myself he’s rewriting his story for strangers not me.
i lost it when i saw my ex’s profile too. reading his fake answers like he was suddenly some family guy when with me he swore he’d never want that. it made me feel like everything he said before was trash. i wanted to scream at him for being a liar.
So glad to hear that I am not the only one experiencing this... Now I know that he is just putting on a show, but I am wondering for who. If it was me he lied to or if he's lying on the dating app in order to get more matches or whatever.
Even though it makes me mad, it helps me to realize more and more that he is not a person I'd like to spend the rest of my life with.
Funny how they all think that they are so special, but in the end they're all really just the same.