he blocked me and has deactivated his account for a month. After he blocked me, i wrote him with a fake account asking if we could talk about it. He said I would be doing him a huge favor if I didn’t write to him, he needs distanz but that I can write to him in two months when i am still feeling bad and shouldn’t hesitate.should i?
Last updated on:2025-09-09T00:45:04+05:30
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you’ve already tested the boundary once, your brain just keeps replaying it.
sitting with that “wait two months” feeling, my chest tight, wondering if it’d be worth it. it hurt but i also understood wanting to respect the space.
will you write him?
i did the same thing once, pretending i wasn’t me, got told the same shit. it made me feel small and desperate, but part of me still wanted to.
i‘m feeling so worthless
Ask yourself this: How do you feel about being put on hold?
Do you think it's fair that he has so much control over you and how things should be going?
He probably feels very comfortable knowing that even in 2-3 months you will still be there waiting for him... While you're wasting your precious life time, waiting for someone who's not choosing you and maybe never will.
But what about if you could take your power back? When you break free from this waiting and take the steering wheel, so that YOU can decide where your own life is heading and what you want to do with your time.
Don't let someone else put you in a timeout just because it's convenient for them!
Thank you so much, this is so true. I have to move on and stop romanticizw it. It’s so hard for me, because I know he’s avoidant. Because I know it hurts him too, and he just can’t handle things like this. I know I deserve better, but I can’t stop thinking.