do avoidants miss you
Last updated on:2025-09-09T02:31:02+05:30
do avoidants miss you
do avoidants miss you
Last updated on:2025-09-09T02:31:02+05:30
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you’re wondering if the absence is noticed, i did that too, kept reading every little sign, it doesn’t mean much beyond that moment
sometimes i felt it too, like i was on their mind in little flashes, it hurt but it wasn’t the same as being wanted fully
oh yes like soulmates..
yeah they do, but it’s not like it matters, they just miss the control or the easy part of you, not you really
but what if they miss me:/
Reaching out while they're in that relief stage or emotionally deactivated isn't a good idea... Their mind isn't in the right place to process any emotions. And if they can't even deal with their own at that point, they will be completely overwhelmed if you reach out to them. Even if they react kindly (which my ex always did when I reached out to him after the break up), it pushes them away because they're faced with guilt (he literally told me that!). They feel safer in the space and silence and it gives them time to reflect. I understand it's hard, but keep in mind that a week of no contact to us probably just feels like a day to them... They process emotions much, much slower.
yes we fight and he blocked me i asked him if i can contact him in 2-3 months, He said it would be a huge favor if I didn’t contact him right now, and that he wants to put a final end to it, but i can write him and should‘t hesitate..mixed signals
They do, but do we really miss them?
yes😞😞
@GoodDay345 I feel you! I promise that day by day you will realise how calmer you will get
Most likely, yes but only after some time. They are VERY slow at processing and their emotions because they do everything in their power to avoid them. They distract themselves after a break up and go into a relief stage.
With time, space and silence their emotions will eventually catch up to them and they will start missing their ex partner. But it will takes weeks or even months.
But even if they are missing their ex partner, some of them will never reach out and they will just try to push that feeling down as well...
But they will have times where they miss the connection, especially if you were a genuinely kind person and treated them well.
i hope they realize soon how important we are..
@CozyZap363 I feel you... I keep on wishing the same, but I am also doubting that my ex is able to self reflect in that way. He doesn't know about attachment styles (I told him, but he doesn't understand the depth of it) and thinks the wish to be free, highly independent and somewhat selfish is just part of his personality. He doesn't see how his emotions control him more than he controls them. So I doubt that he will realize what he's lost anytime soon.
But that's okay. I already start to believe that something better might come my way soon...
and what if we reach out? thank you!!