do avoidants break no contact? we’ve stopped talking a few times but everytime i broke no contact first. and when i asked him why he didn’t do it he said that he indeed thought about it and that he missed me a lot but he managed to always not break no contact and waited for me to it. today we’re on our 14 day of no contact and it’s a record in our 1 year relationship and i’m scared that if i don’t break no contact he won’t do it and i’ll end up never talking to him ever again. i’m pretty sure he misses me but he’s expecting me to break no contact first, as i always do. it makes me sick to my stomach i want him to break no contact for once and feel important to him. i still love him so, so much.
Last updated on:2025-09-09T01:43:02+05:30
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you’ve been carrying the weight of starting contact every time. you probably notice how much it affects you more than him right now, that tension is real
feeling the exact same, stomach in knots, hoping they’d make the move for once. it’s painful wanting to feel wanted like that. you’re allowed to feel that hurt
yep i’ve been there, always being the first to reach out. it eats you alive wanting them to care enough to do it first, and they just… don’t. it’s maddening
please don’t break the no contact, seriously they can never commit to you , they just love to take from you but they never give back what you need , they are selfish, like really really selfish, they only care about themselves
so between my ex and me. she was the always one to fight and initiate a breakup many times... we would go no contact and after a few days I would always give and contact her. She used to say that she knew I could never stay away will always come back. and she was right. At those moments I would think this is who I am to her... the needy one.. who would always come crawling back to her. she always told me that she loved me but I noticed during no contact when I was suffering she was always enjoying. the reality hit me that she never loved me. the one who loves you can never stay apart. they would always try to save the relationship. they would ignore the ego and self respect.