What’s so hard is questioning if anything was real. How he made me feel so easily understood and seen at the beginning, he always understood me and wanted to understand me he was like the perfect partner. He basically checked every box. The switch up with no true explanation is what’s scary. How easy he changed from being a loving guy on the surface to just becoming really mean. It messed with my self worth in every way, I’m still healing from how hard to love he made me feel all of a sudden. It’s one month into our breakup, he did everything he said he wasn’t the type to do. Joined dating apps one day after our breakup and hanging out with the girl he told me not to worry about, completely had portrayed himself as this mature guy with true values. it’s such a shock when you realise they are not who they said they were.
Last updated on:2025-09-08T23:49:03+05:30
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you’re still trying to reconcile who he was with who he became, that confusion sticks with you longer than the breakup itself.
feeling that exact sting, like everything i believed was a lie. it’s normal to feel shaken, i did too, it took me months to stop doubting myself.
yep same. thought he was perfect, then bam, all that charm was fake. i kept replaying how easy he flipped and it ate me alive.
some great replies here. and I’m so sorry so many of us going through this. thanks for reminding me there was a me before this and there will be a better version of me once I get over the pain of this heartbreak. and I will!!!
I so relate to this. I feel like my whole reality has been torn apart. I feel so incredibly stupid. I feel like everyone knew and has been laughing at me. it’s so humiliating.
I’m so sorry but I promise it’s not humiliating. It’s humiliating for him not for you. I feel more stupid for not having walked away first when I knew I needed to walk away for good. I stayed until I truly felt unlovable.
Its the uniq things of universe. sometimes we thinks he is the one but.. time changes it. The love you give to him its real girl and he will regret it soon. Time to love yourself first and in the end of the day, someone best version will come to you. Goodluck girl, we can do it ❣️
I’d never felt so sure of someone being the one other than him. never would I have seen staying with someone forever or imagining a true future. that’s the scary part. I let myself fall so deep without really knowing what he truly was like.
@SnapZip686 I feel it girll. We just too sincere and blind at that time. Sometime i thinking why i do that much for that Guy hahaha. Then i have 2 answer,
first, probally he the one for us but we meet in wrong time thats why we love them so much but its not his best version. A lot people go and come again in their best version.. have happy ending.
second, It for our lesson. Becarefull and analyses more for the guy you choose next time. Looking and get the best version guy for you.
No need to rush and thinking future for guy, focus in your present first girl and lets see time show which answer you will get ❣️
that's so true, it's such a shock when we see they are not well we thought then to be. from a lover to a stranger.
and some people do it so well. he pretended to be a complete other version of himself. he was so charming and loving and had the same values as me in everything. but once it didn’t matter he just let all his true colors show. he was a compulsive liar it was scary how easy he lied.
@SnapZip686 yeah so true. but I'm trying to just make all these feelings go away. I want to be the older me again when.. who was once active and happy. I wish you to get over this soon and start living the life which you wanted. I have acknowledged their flaws and mine as well. just day by day I think we all would be getting better.