me and my ex we dated for a year and 6 months, were young and love is hard to do so we didnt quite figure it all out but we still lived eacgother very much. we fought a lot but still forgave eacgother everytime. we've been broken up for 2 months now and im still struggling with getting over him, he texts me every night still about just random things and it takes all my progress away again. he blocks me for a couple hours or a day then unblocks me says sorry then does it again. its been going on since the breakup, me and him are kind of friends but he keeps doing that so its very complicated. he broke up with me when I caught him talking bad about me. we had eachother tik tok and Snapchat accounts and we'd look at each other's texts sometimes just for fun and I checked his one night after we hung up from a call and he told his friend I wouldnt stop calling and that im crazy because i will check if hes active because his friend was telling him to play a game with him and he told me he was going to sleep so he called me crazy and weird and yeah said that I wouldnt stop calling but he called me. he likes my friend right now and he unblocked me so I could comfort him about it because she blocked him because she didnt like him and it felt wrong for her since shes my friend and the person I deeply love likes her instead. I just need advice on how to get over him, when it gets better or if it ever does, and if he might come back or not. I cant let go of the feeling we have unfinished business.
Last updated on:2025-09-11T23:48:15+05:30
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looks like you’re stuck in the middle of wanting closure and still reacting to him. that kind of back and forth keeps anyone in a loop. you’re not handling it wrong, it’s just how messy this is.
feeling that mix of wanting to comfort him and hating myself for it. it hurt so much seeing someone you love want someone else. i had the same unfinished feelings, it stayed raw for a long time.
yeah especially one of your best friends, that shit hurt bad. and yes I hope its an actual feeling than just a me trying to tell myself he is gonna come back, yk? like a gut feeling, its like that but I cant tell if its just me being delusional.
i know that chaos all too well. the texts the blocking the apologies it’s like they keep yanking you back just to watch you suffer. i hated how much i let it control me it made me feel pathetic but i couldn’t stop.
exactly. its so hard to stop texting back amd stop giving into it. it sucks
I was also going through this once. they always have explaination about their behaviour. they would always tell us that we are being toxic or something but I think when you are with someone then you should miss them and try to take every chance to talk with eachother. if they are not, it simply means we are not a priority, they would leave us without a second thought. you just need to acknowledge and understand that these people don't deserve the love we give and try to love yourself for now. no matter how much you would try to make them understand about your feelings they would always think of themselves and their convenience.
yes exactly, its always our faults no matter how many wrongs they've done. thank you very much. the only thing thats been on my head is whether hes gonna come back or not, I dont think he should but a part of me still wants it and knows no one else is gonna deal with all of the bs he pulls all the time. its a matter of waiting I guess. thank you tho I feel seen finally, I thought I really was in the wrong but im glad someone else has had the same situation
@chloebear hey don't worry we all are here for eachother. you know what just like you, I have this same feelings, I miss her and want her to comeback and atleast acknowledge my love for her, but deep inside I also know she's just not on the same level as me. she's out there, having life, doing whatever she wants, and me I'm here still thinking of her. but not everyone is same, one day I will be free of these thoughts and enjoy my life once again hopefully, until then we have got eachother.
@WildSun535 I feel like there's always one side in the relationship that just yearns for them while their out having fun being single and hoeing around, but yes one day well both be free of all the thoughts of them and hopefully around then they have matured and are ready to give it another chance but also no-one wants to go through that a second time so at the same time I want him to come back its also not whats best for my mental health and probably yours to. let's just hope were either over them or they have grown during the time apart and ready to let themselves love more.also him and I keep breaking contact so thats even harder yk. thank you for helping me out tho!!
@chloebear that's the exact thoughts come itno my mind. on one hand I hope for them to comeback on the other I just want this misery to end soon. Hope is the thing which is keeping me anxious all this time, and the thing is that no matter how much I think that it will be better someday, I'm still in the hope that may be they will come to some realisation.
@WildSun535 I finally let go of that hope, I let go of the things he gave me and it honestly made me feel so much better. I started telling myself if he comes back he comes back if not it was ment to be like that. I think you should try taking those steps, I did it because I kept telling myself he was gonna come back and when that mindset finally stopped I felt more at peace knowing if it was ment to be it will be. its a huge thing to do but it feels so much better I promise.all my anxiousness went away and all the fears just letting go, not fully but on the way. please try to do this, you wont regret it. you'll feel so much lift off your chest.
@chloebear yesterday she contacted me... I didn't pick up the call at first, but later I picked her call... she asked about me how I was.. I said fine and then cut the call. I think that moment has given me alot of confidence to find peace within myself. now I don't need her. I want to be me again.