I miss him all the time. But I also feel Calmness that he's not in my life. We could have a great lovley life together and get everything we ever wanted but I have to think that my dream guy, behing the love bombing were a sick narcissist. Nothing were ever real. I think the tried to be a good man but the manipulative side and the lying side took över, also in his workplace were we worked together. I tried listen and understand him but I gas just manipulated and we were together 2.5.years. To others he was a nice kind man who always helped others. But now everybody knows who he really is. I am still waiting for him to delevere some items from me thats in his apartment. And he drages it out, why???? he said he wanted it to give it to me. And he is in University and comes home very late. But still he ended our relationsship a month ago and I have still not gotten my things. Any thoughs???
Last updated on:2025-09-08T23:30:51+05:30
Comments (14)
you’re stuck in the waiting part, your head is still tied to him even though the relationship is over, that delay just keeps the tension alive
thats true
it sucks that he’s dragging it out, it’s okay to be frustrated and still miss him at the same time
i spent months waiting for my stuff too while he acted like nothing happened, it’s like they enjoy seeing you hang on
I also think that I doesn't matter why they were having such behaviour towards us. people like them always prioritize themselves and they are there only when they need or at their convenience. they are selfish and always think only of their betterment. we are ones who get along and try to justify their behaviour. Don't worry, with time you are gonna be happy and these things won't matter. atleast this is what I believe and try to move on.
Thank you for your support. Its really hard beacause we talked about having children and I really like his family and friends. He has a 19 year old dauther and a 21 year old son... He always talked about himself, he was always the most importent. Any thoughs about why he dont give back my items ? is it beacause he dont care or is it a stalling thing that he maybe want to talk months down the line when he gives my stuff back.? i said he could through it away and he said no, its my things , he wanted me to havd them, and still i'm wating.. What is HE wating for??
@Elissa40 so I'm in this same situation, my ex have lots of my stuff with her. I haven't even bothered to bring this up with her. even if she ever ask me about what she should do with it I would reply the same. I think you should stop overthinking about this... if someone has to be in our life no matter what, they would find a way, nothing is stopping anyone. I also think but not sure, they just not want to think about us, that's why they don't even want to deal with our stuff. just try to let go. I know it's hard but that's the only option apart from overthinking.
@WildSun535 it feels like its a way for them to make us holding on the them. If they still have items from us, they automaticly wait for us to contact them ? I have birthday gifts for him that he never receved, shall i through them away?
@Elissa40 you should throw those gifts if they are reminding you of him so much... as this is already occupying so much space in your mind. now I think you should worry about only of your mental health. keep the no contact intact. don't bother yourself of these thoughts, I know it's really hard. slowly you have let things and these thoughts go from your mind. starting by getting rid of things which keeps you hooked to them. hey, I'm in the same boat, I'm also going through these feelings, what I have observed that letting go of things which reminds of them even if they are small little things, then it really helps to let go of these things and keep your mind less occupied of thinking about that. just get rid of all the things you can for now, every day take a little step and eventually you will be free of these hooks and start giving yourself priority.
@WildSun535 thank you for your comment. I dont have items from him. He has my items. He said he didnt want to through it all away, in said it didnt matter to me. But he wanted to give me my stuff. And Im waiting... could it be a tactic for him months down the line to maybe someday "talk" so reconnect? i mean whats taking so long.. im done with him. Im 40 years old. I dont need that man in my life. We talked about having a family. He only was mirroring me the whole time. My hobbys, dreams and so on. He lied the whole time.
@Elissa40 we really don't know what they are after or what they actually want. we are helpless. only thing we can do is just be by ourselves and focus on things which we can control. just try to live day by day. may be there will be day when our mind would be relaxed and free of all this.
@WildSun535 🥰🥰🥰
⚘️⚘️⚘️
I think you have to stop trying to understand why. unfortunately some people are just like that. they are selfish and only think of themselves. those are the people that won’t live a fullfilling life like you will, because you have a good heart