Is anyone struggling with the idea they feel they’ve lost the one for them ? even if he wasn’t treating me the best, for some reason I truly felt that he was the one I was supposed to marry, from the second we spoke and we kissed, that he was my person. I felt like this inner sense of peace even just thinking about him, I felt so safe in his arms. it’s really hard to let go of the idea that they’re not the one, when everyone feels so foreign it’s almost like there’s no point to try and date someone else when the only time it felt perfect was with him. I know that his behaviour means that he’s not the one, but I was falling in love with who he was rather than what he did. I’m really struggling to accept that I’ll find someone else. I feel so lonely.
Last updated on:2025-09-10T21:27:02+05:30
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feels like you’re holding two truths at once. you knew he wasn’t treating you right but your body still remembers the calm of being with him. that gap between knowing and feeling can drag for a long time.
that same peace. like my chest could finally relax when i was with him. losing that felt like losing air. it makes sense it’s hard to picture someone else right now.
yeah i get that. i swore my ex was the only person who’d ever feel like home. i told myself i’d marry him even while he was treating me like shit. it’s twisted how safe i felt in the same arms that also made me miserable.
having been through the cycle of breakup and make up for 9 years...all I can say is whe. they show their true colors....believe it. Don't keep trying to recreate the fantasy, the potential, the lie--that you fell in love with. Stay strong, stay positive & focus on yourself. Don't do what i did over and over. i am 21 days no contact except for 2 brief responses to his text asking for something of his. its not getting any easier yet but I have to believe it will. I am done wasting my life.
I feel you. I really miss my ex, he was my person, my best friend, and what I considered my home. It sounds stupid but I would do anything to just feel the peace I felt in his arms and his warmth. And it just feels like the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, that to this day I love so deeply has disappeared. Whenever I spoke with him after he broke up with me, he’s been nothing but cold and distant. You’re not alone, it does feel very lonely when you become attached to the person. It’s hard to let go of who you feel so deeply. Just the thought of it not being him, is to this moment terrifying. But you will find someone else. Just have to ride the wave of feelings, even if it’s terrifying (I’m not the best person to say this as I am hopeless, but have to fake it until you make it!)