Today I took the decision to leave some birthday gifts that he would get if he didnt end the relationsship 1 month ago. I didnt want them at home and said in a massage that they were standing outside his house. He writes a massage that he isnt at home but writes 15 minutes later and said thank you so much for the gifter, they make him cry. I send a massage that why couldnt he come downstairs and say hi and lied about not being at home. This part pissed me of! He have the nerve to send back a massage that he couldnt face me beacause he is mentally struggleling and "this" breakup is one of the hardest thing he ever had to do. My abuser that put me trought 2.5 years of psychological abuse with manipulation, lies, he steeled money from his work and coworkes, said that I was mentally ill and twist and turned every Word and situation to make it my fault, said that this breakup makes him struggleling mentally. What a joke!! He never took resposabilitys towards his own actions and how he made me feel and made me cry and in pain. He wrote this massage today and I will not replay. Its just another manipulation tactic to make me sorry for him.
Last updated on:2025-09-12T22:48:37+05:30
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he flipped the story so fast. you gave back the gifts, he turned it into his suffering. same pattern you already saw with him, shifting blame and making himself the center.
I meet him today. 1.5 month after the breakup. We talked about 30 min. Its strange that he still just talkes about himself. That he cant manage his studies, and feels so bad psychology. I saw that he meant it. This is so strange to me. That he is The abuser but now feel so bad. I have to admit. Its a bit nice to see him feel bad, but unfortinatly for The wrong reasons.
i leaving things at my ex’s door too. i thought maybe it would close something for me but then he twisted it into his own sad story. it really hurts when they act like the pain was only theirs.
Its sad. They will never understand. I think my abuser acutally feels lonley, he said nothing is fun anymore, and the other side i catched him on dating sites and anonymse sex sites when we were together. How unhappy could he be?? 😆
mine pulled the same shit. played victim like he was the one broken while i was the one crawling out of hell. too hard to face me but had zero problem lying and stealing. pathetic.
Im sorry to hear that. 😢❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️ its all a tactic to make us feel sorry for them. Give me a break ....