We were together for three years. It wasn’t always smooth but we were each other’s first love. He had his issues emotionally distant unwilling to talk passive in the relationship but I believed him when he said he’d change.
Then Saturday came. He said I’ll never change. This is over. He left me and went drinking with his friends.
My mind keeps swinging between two truths 1 He’s shown me who he really is—selfish unreliable and cold. 2 He once said I was made for him that he’d love me forever. He said he cared… and then walked away when I needed him most.
I find myself staring at his WhatsApp wondering if he’s online if he’s thinking of me if he regrets it. Looking back I see signs of a dismissive avoidant he was perfect during our long-distance phase but once he moved back things changed. He grew colder never talked about the future never opened up emotionally even when I tried to be his safe space.
Just a month ago he begged for another chance. We made a plan. Therapy was part of it. He never went. And now he says we’re incompatible. I’m stunned. I feel abandoned.
I’m struggling deeply. I don’t know how to process this. If anyone’s been through something similar… how did you get through it?
Last updated on:2025-10-07T16:32:52+05:30
Comments (4)
craving emotional safety ♡ i have exactly the same. he said to me i have adhd and need therapy because my emotions are not balanced. but he makes me insecure. with his 2 stupid personalitys, always mad or wanna be right about something..I never hear sweet or kind words from him unless I start first. It makes me feel like I’m always the one reaching out, always the one trying.
i think the best way is to stay strong alone and waiting what happens? if he really loves you hes coming to fight for you
sounds like what happened to me when distance ended. long distance looked fine because it was all calls and texts. once real life was there he shut down. no future talk no effort just silence until he left. it feels like the pattern repeated here too.
that shock when someone i trusted just pulled the plug. one day planning therapy, next day telling me we’re done. it felt unreal for weeks. i kept checking if he was online too, like maybe that meant he still cared. it’s a rough place to be in.
mine ended almost the same. he begge swore he’d fix it made promises he never touched. i kept waiting like an idiot while he went out drinking and laughing. i remember staring at my phone thinking how can someone say forever and then bail like it’s nothing.