no contact feels like punishment. it feels like Im paying for something I did. I guess I deserve it since I broke up with him. I did it because I felt like our incompatibility based on religion, values and goals would cause us long term issues. now I’m paying the price for that decision. I’m in pain every day. I miss him so much
Last updated on:2025-09-15T03:52:02+05:30
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you’re carrying the weight of the choice more than the break up itself. i remember doing that, feeling like missing him was my own punishment.
the mix of missing him and feeling like it’s your fault. i sat crying thinking i had done the right thing but it still hurt like hell.
i felt that same sting. like every day was a reminder that i chose the break up and now i was stuck watching what i wanted disappear. it hurt like punishment, not freedom.
as someone who is on the other side, id like to offer some reassurance... im doing no contact because I still love him. I desperately want to talk to him but he chose to leave. Im doing no contact out of respect for his decision and also so i can give myself time to reflect and heal. Its not a punishment at all, its out of love for both him and myself that I am not reaching out.
i get you so much. it’s incredibly hard when you’re the one who cut ties with him when obviously that’s not what you wanted. i’m rooting for you, be strong 💞