My avoidant ex left me because she didint feel like herself and because of that she lost feelings for me. All i did was love and support her all the way through the relationship i gave her whatever she needed and i was always there. Now five months after the breakup she is with a new gf (her best friend). She told she loved me with her whole hurt and she never lied to me. I guess thats a lie??? Do avoidants do that or she just used it for an excuse???
Last updated on:2025-09-15T23:18:02+05:30
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she gave reasons that made sense for her but now she is with her friend. the jump to someone new makes it harder for you to believe her words. it’s more about how fast she moved on than what she said.
I hate him now and I don't know how I can live without calling him
my avoidant bf said the same things that he does not have feelings for me and it will come back once I get a job . he always tells me to leave him and find someone better if I have so much problems with him. he also told that I am not pretty and thus he does not get the idea to chase me
i was asking myself if all of it was fake. i kept replaying moments her smile the way she held me wondering if she meant any of it. maybe she did back then even if it’s different now.
my ex said the same thing. swore up and down i was loved then left like it meant nothing. five months later he was posting pics with someone else. felt like every word he ever said was bullshit.
yep they do that.
you dont really, they will keep hurting you. if you think you want this then think why you want to get hurt over and over again. And if necessary ask for help your friends or a professional.
From what I understand Avoidants tend to get to a point where they find comfortable, stable relationships to be "too good to be true" and fear that they will lose themselves in the relationship. Someone explained it to me like they are holding onto a hot cup of coffee to the point where they will eventually drop it out of how overwhelming that feeling is.
the hardest part, usually the partner left behind did everything right. it's not you, it's them and their unresolved issues, and until they resolve those issues, they're going to do it again to the next person.
take time for yourself, remind yourself it's not you, you didn't cause this, and you deserve better than that.
yeah i know...but i want them to come back. How do i make them to come back to me