We never really had proper closure. Our last conversation was only through chat, where he told me he needed space to deal with his problems on his own and didn’t want me to get involved. He also told me to focus on myself. He never said we should cut ties completely, but I chose not to reach out anymore because I know it only hurts me and makes me hold on to false hope. Even so, I feel the need for closure, so I plan to talk to him in person to settle things and end them positively. I intend to do this a week later, once things are clearer for the both of us.
Do you think it’s better to have that conversation in person, or would it be okay to just talk through chat?
Last updated on:2025-09-15T23:13:02+05:30
Comments (5)
you’re trying to decide if seeing him will bring peace or just reopen it. either way you already chose not to reach out before, so part of you knows what contact does to you.
wanting that one last calm talk, just to feel like things ended gently. i did it over text because i knew i’d break down in person. it felt softer that way.
i chased closure too. thought a face to face would fix the hole he left. it didn’t. i walked out of that talk more confused and pissed off.
A week is too soon, if you really need to see him in person to talk then you need to wait 30 days. Only then will you have the time and space you need for clarity. But its really important to remind yourself that he cant give you closure, you are the only person who can do that. Closure comes from within, not your ex.
In person is always better if both sides are on the same page and you're sure he is not toxic but just a normal person.