I’m on my 90th day of no contact, and it’s truly the bravest and best decision I’ve made for both my present and future self. During this time, I’ve learned to enjoy my own company and discovered so much about myself, my wants, my non-negotiables, and what I value in a future partner (not that I'm actively looking).
But I’ve realized that when we surrender everything to God, He heals us. His plans are always greater than ours. When we let go of what isn’t meant for us, we create space for something better. I’ve even met someone who is the complete opposite of my ex.
One lesson I’m taking with me into any relationship is this: never give it all away, always keep a part of yourself for you. Don’t settle. We all deserve to be happy and free.
Last updated on:2025-09-16T02:05:03+05:30
Comments (9)
you are saying a lot about god and lessons but what stands out is the part about keeping something for yourself. sounds like u learned that the hard way.
i smiled reading this. i remember when i first felt like i could sit alone and not panic. i didn’t think i’d ever get there. it felt calm in a way i forgot existed.
day 90 i was pissed more than proud. i hated counting like it was some prison sentence. i told myself i was over it but every night i still played old convos in my head.
Proud of you. I hope i'd get to do this as well.
this is so nice to hear. how long did you date your ex?
9 years on and off. He was my first and I was trauma bonded. It was difficult but I'm glad I finally had the courage to choose myself. 🥰
Awwweee I’m so proud of you and the journey you’ve gone through. I know that going no contact isn’t easy, especially when you’ve been so deeply attached to someone, but I’m really glad you were able to overcome it focused on your growth and happiness. I hope to reach that point too. Right now, everything still feels like it’s falling apart, and I’m still struggling to accept that it’s really over.
I've also been praying to God for healing and comfort because everything is too hard rn. I cried countless times while I was praying cause I couldn't bear the pain and it suffocates me, affecting almost all aspects of my life.
I'm so proud of you! We can do this, one step at a time. 🥰