I built a close friendship with someone who’s deeply religious. That was never an issue for me I genuinely cared about her and respected our differences. But over time her beliefs started to dominate every conversation even when it wasn’t relevant or invited.
In our last talk she said my favorite artist had sold her soul to the devil. I tried to set a boundary saying that felt too much. Then she shared her views on homosexuality comments like gays shove it in your face that’s not your identity and pride is about sex not love. I’m queer and she knows that. Hearing those words from someone I trusted cut deep.
She also made gaslighting remarks like only the woke are allowed to speak and I bought you gifts do you really think I hate you? She dismissed my feelings entirely. I snapped told her to fuck off and blocked her. I had reached my breaking point.
She’s always struggled with emotional vulnerability and rarely takes responsibility during conflict. I know she has trauma and that’s what makes this so hard—I never wanted to hurt her but I’m scared I did.
Now I’m torn. Should I leave it here or send a message for closure? Part of me wants to reach out but I’m afraid of being ignored—or hurt again. I cared about her deeply. And this still hurts.
Last updated on:2025-09-16T03:21:02+05:30
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do you feel like reaching out would actually give you peace, or are you hoping she’ll finally validate your pain?
when i’ve been in this place, the best thing was giving it space. closure from them usually came out messy. closure i gave myself… softer, slower, but real.
i felt this in my chest. i had a close friend in college who used religion to cut me down when i came out. she’d say “i love you but i can’t support sin. that but destroyed me. i finally walked away. it still hurts because i did care but i don’t regret choosing myself.
You should apologize for telling her to eff off but otherwise you owe her nothing.