ughhh, i was being so strong. i had 5 days in. this is the second time that at day 5, i cave and text him. i feel so stupid and know i look crazy and desperate to him. he won't answer. i just have to keep going, just sucks i'm back at day 1 but 5 days ago i was livid finding out he was with someone else, this time was more of a goodbye message saying i hope he is happy, im sorry for the mean things i said and i hope things work out for him. do i mean it? probably not but atleast my last messages were nice... hopefully it will be easier to move forward that way..
Last updated on:2025-09-16T23:00:10+05:30
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when you sent that last message, was it more for him or for you? like… were you hoping he’d see you differently, or was it just to get it out of your head?
probably both..
honestly, i’ve learned day 1 or day 5 or day 20 doesn’t erase the fact you’re still trying. every restart still builds muscle. it’s not wasted it’s practice.
i did the same thing with my ex… every time i hit 5–6 days no contact i’d break and send some closure” text. i thought being nice would make me feel better. it didn’t but it did stop me from spiraling about the last fight. i feel your mix of anger and softness so much.
For me, ive found the most success in telling myself "just one more day". When I feel the urge to reach out, I look at my no contact counter and tell myself, I can make it one more day without reaching out. Usually, if I can hype myself up to just wait one more day, the urge to text him goes away.
the urge to talk is very real, but being nice isn't probably what he deserves.
you did right but don't expect him to be nice to you. don't keep any expectations