I found that he has apparently been asking his friends(who I used to be friends with too but not anymore) if I hate him. Like that just doesn't even make sense to me, because why would he care? especially when he's acting like he hates me too, why does he care if I hate him? Idk what to think about it, but I have recently learned that he has seemingly been a little miserable lately, so I've been celebrating that. (I know it sounds mean, but if you know the full story, you'd understand). anyways I still barely ever see him during school, thank God.
but one more thing, so this old friend group, all of them kind of struggle with confrontation and they aren't the best with reaching out unless it's in person. So when the breakup first happened, none of them reached out, none. So I took that as like my sign to actually go through letting them go because they knew about the breakup and none of them reached out to ask how I was or anything. So their excuse is apparently that they just didn't want to get in the middle of whatever was going on between me and him and they don't really do well with reaching out first, which I mean I get that. But I was going through a breakup, after a year together, and they couldn't even try to reach out to make sure I was okay.
I'm not planning on ever going back to them, I guess I just wanted to share this because you can never really know what a person's true colors are like, regardless of what you may think.
Last updated on:2025-09-17T02:25:33+05:30
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do you think part of why you’re done with that old friend group is the silence… or more the excuses after? like which part actually stung the most?
there's multiple reasons that I wanted to split from them, even before me and my ex broke up. they just aren't the type of the people I really wanted to have in my life, and the only thing that was really holding me to them was him. But now, I'm free from all of them.
I guess what strung the most is that all of them didn't even care to check up on me and then later on just so easily turn on me like I did something wrong.
i get why you’d celebrate him being miserable tbh. when my ex seemed fine right after, it made me feel invisible. what helped me was remembering his mess wasn’t mine to carry anymore.
Yep, exactly.
ugh this hit me. my ex also used to poke around asking mutual friends if i was mad at him after he blew everything up. like why do they act cold to your face but secretly care if you “hate” them? the mixed signals used to drive me crazy.
yeah exactly, I just hope he doesn't break the no contact to ask me himself. Although I do have a plan if he does decide to do that.