I wonder how much of this is about putting up with them for a thrill to our nervous systems versus genuinely liking the person. He doesn't even align with who I am. But it's the slow drip of the dynamic and time invested that keeps us hooked.
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do you feel like you ever actually liked them, or more the idea of fixing / winning them over?
exactly! I wanted to be the 1 who made them realize they had to change.
I realized a while back that he wasn't, I mean If even have thoughts while we were still dating like he's very different from me and has different hobbies but I thought we were making it work. But now, I don't even know what I saw in him, his personality was not attractive at all and he couldn't do one of the main things I knew I wanted in a relationship ship which is to be able to comfort me when I need it. He wasn't able to do that. So with me, it came down to that and just the way he'd sometimes talk to me about other girls(who are his friends).
Like here's one thing he did. we were at this award thing for school and just a couple days ago we were talking and I found out he had a crush on this girl in elementary, do at the award thing when her name got called he turned to me and was pointing a little saying 'that's my first crush' multiple times. After that, I remember being a little cold with him the rest of the day but he was acting like there was nothing wrong. And I mean yes I can take a joke, but I had told him that I don't like those kind of jokes yet he never stopped doing them. and who knows it probably wasn't even a joke and he still likes her.
honestly, what helped me was writing down who i actually want in a partner, then comparing it to who my ex was. the mismatch was loud when i saw it in front of me.
Well, i ever make a list, what i wanna for my soulmate, he have 60% in the list. The way i accepted because there are so many coincidences with him. Suddenly, he my secret angel (internal event) and choosen same project in organization..
He feel the same.. and chassing me first but yeahh he the one who leaved me.. I never have relationship in my life, then that coincidences make me think he is the sign that God give to me.. I don't know in the future but I'm totaly wrong now
i feel this so hard. i stayed with someone who wasn’t even my type at ALL. he annoyed me half the time, but i was addicted to the drama and the crumbs of “good moments.” it’s wild how our bodies confuse chaos with love.