My girlfriend and I had been together for a few months. After a painful breakup four years ago it took me a long time to feel ready to date again. I worked on myself took a chance and put my heart back out there.
I met someone younger than me first time I’d ever dated someone not older and we clicked instantly. Things moved fast. She said she loved me wanted to be with me and we were practically inseparable.
Then she went to a music festival and kept partying afterward saying she’d come back soon. Eventually I voiced my frustration and offered to return her things if she wasn’t planning to come back. Next thing I knew she and all her friends had blocked me everywhere. I didn’t care much about her friends but it still felt jarring.
I’ve been feeling really low since. I even had a brief relapse with alcohol but I’ve returned to AA. She reminded me of my younger self carefree spontaneous and I’d forgotten how much I missed that energy.
Now I come home to an empty apartment knowing she’s probably not coming back. Part of me hopes she’ll unblock me. Another part wonders if I made a mistake trying to date someone younger.
Last updated on:2025-09-16T16:12:03+05:30
Comments (3)
i’ve been through the relapse spiral too. what helped me was making my space feel like mine again. i moved stuff around, got rid of things that reminded me of her. sounds small but it helped me breathe. also i stopped checking if she’d unblock me. that part was eating me alive.
do you think part of why it hurts so much is because she reminded you of who you used to be? like… was it her you missed, or the version of you that felt free again?
ugh this hit me hard. i dated someone younger too, and it felt like i was chasing a version of myself i missed. she was wild spontaneous made me feel alive again. but when she ghosted me after a fight i spiraled. i blamed myself for choosing her for wanting that spark. but truth is it wasn’t about age it was about emotional maturity. and i couldn’t carry both of us.