We started dating back in 11th grade and it felt like the perfect beginning. After years together I truly believed he was my soulmate. We even talked about getting engaged by the end of 2026.
Then he brought home a dog even though I warned him he wouldn’t have time to care for it. He didn’t listen but I still supported him because it made him happy. Within two weeks he was overwhelmed missing sleep constantly tired and eventually gave the dog up for adoption. One of his staff members took it in. He was heartbroken and I stayed by his side to comfort him.
But after that something shifted. He started pulling away less calls less presence. Even when we met he felt emotionally distant. I tried talking to him about how I felt how things had changed since the dog situation. He said he’d try to be better but nothing really changed.
Then he adopted two kittens thinking they’d be easier. I supported him again hoping it would help. But it only got worse.
Eventually he told me he needed a break to figure out if he missed me or not. Said he didn’t feel the spark anymore. I was crushed. I asked what I did wrong and he said it wasn’t me he just needed time.
I broke the no-contact rule twice in four days. The last time I called he said he felt normal not talking to me maybe because he’s busy. I told him I wanted to end things and he asked me to give him more time.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel so messed up and lost.
Last updated on:2025-09-17T06:27:02+05:30
Comments (3)
when he said he needed time did he give any timeline or change anything besides words? and do you still have to meet him or share stuff that makes no-contact impossible?
this hurt to read. breaking no-contact twice is human not a failure. protect your energy now. block delete make a tiny routine for yourself and let the silence do the work. little boundaries helped me heal. 💔
ugh i feel this in my bones. i was with my highschool person too thought it was forever then small stuff became distance and i kept showing up. stayed way too long and it only taught me how much i’d given away. 😭