him & I also attend the same university & even worse we live in the same apartment building. I get such stomach dropping anxiety every time I have to go though the lobby incase I run into him.
im sitting here falling apart, overthinking everything that happened. he told me to my face that he wouldn't care if I wasnt in his life anymore but hed be happy to screw around with me...then proceeded to block me. he never acknowledged anything I had to say, ik I didnt matter to him & wasnt a priority. but what if he's sitting in his room laughing, screwing another girl, and thinking he's so lucky he got rid of me, or that hes just relieved im gone again... when I begged, I tried, I made myself smaller to try to be good enough, & he destroyed who I am as a person. how do you ever get past that? how the hell do you heal from that?
Last updated on:2025-09-21T07:32:03+05:30
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I literally cannot imagine how hard is being for you. there's nothing easy about what you said and I'm so sorry you have to go through this. from the "he never acknowledged..." to the end I could relate 100%. Until today (19 days with no contact) I still have these thoughts. In my case he went back to his country (far from mine). I was thinking it was bad bc he broke up with me and he was the one that got away. And I'm the one carrying the memories of the places we used to go... but I understand the complexity of yours situation. I don't think there's a right way to deal with this, but I'm doing a lot of different activities and things that I probably wouldn't do with him. But I'll be honest: either way, during these activities, the thoughts come and go. So the forest thing is to accept that they will come, sometimes lighter, sometimes very strong. Besides, therapy can help as well. But feel hugged and I hope you can heal
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you have one person who can walk with you through the lobby or sit with you after? would you want a few quick grounding tricks for when anxiety spikes?
yes please. I havent seen him in the past week but I still get nauseated
what helped me was tiny stuff: change your route, block him everywhere, tell one friend to walk you through the lobby, and make one small ritual after you leave that proves you still exist. it took time but the panic got quieter. ❤️
Same girl here, we have same organization also and need meet everyday for 2 week.. It's really kill me inside when he not looking at me anymore and talk with other girl so chill..
I finished all the organization event ofc with vomit sometimes every morning. In the first it's definetly so hard but i know you will used to later.. If you cannot hold anymore, it's fine to back to you hometown and rest... after 2 weeks i back to my country, i'm not sure i heal yet but i feel more stronger ❣️❣️ Girls.. You also can do that.. trust yourself.. you wort it 🫶🏻🫶🏻
same. i dated a guy from my uni who lived in my building. i'd freeze in the lobby like my stomach was a knot. he said some awful things to my face too. it gutted me and stayed with me for months. 😭
how did you get past it
what I keep telling myself is that there's so many people in this world, ones we know and some we only catch a glimpse of and never see again. it's inevitable that everyone at one point in their lives meets a person that's so awful, but you often realize that too late. I know it's painful, but if thats how he treated you, then he showed you his true colors. yes it stings to find out someone you love never really loved you back, but it's a part of life. it's how we grow as people and be one stronger. but it takes time. you need to allow yourself to realize how awful he was to you and realize that you don't deserve that, you deserve something, someone better.
not being a priority in your loved ones life should be the immediate turnoff, if they can't make time for you or want to, then they aren't the one for you.