I ended things with him because he crossed boundaries I had clearly set. I blocked him everywhere. It wasn’t easy I felt guilty but I stood by my decision.
Men from my past have hurt me too and sometimes I wonder if I was unfair to him. He genuinely tried. If he messed up he’d apologize and never repeat it.
But I wasn’t physically attracted to him even though he always made me feel loved. I’ll admit I was a little harsh about his appearance and that makes me feel worse.
Now I’m stuck between guilt and confusion. I don’t know what to do.
This is the letter he wrote me
Sometimes I close my eyes and see you. I see you in the corners of our story in the places that were sacred to me and that for you perhaps were just part of a path I never wanted to interrupt. I know I crossed your boundaries and there are no words that can make that right. I know I hurt you and with each passing day I feel it more deeply. I remember how I imagined a future together how I dreamed of shared moments and now I understand how painful it must have been for you that I broke what we promised to protect. It hurts me to acknowledge that I failed you. I’m not looking for excuses I just want you to know that I understand and that I am truly sorry with all my being. I don’t expect you to come back nor to forgive me. I only wish for you to know that I value everything we shared. Every smile every gesture every moment… I wouldn’t change any of it even if it ended this way. My heart will always remember what you gave me love patience moments that could never be erased. I wish I could give back everything I took from you with my mistake but I know that’s impossible. All I can do now is let my words reach you through this letter like a late whisper of regret and gratitude. May you live your life fully may you find the happiness you deserve and may you never let my mistake steal your peace. Thank you. Thank you for everything. For what you gave me for what you taught me for what I was able to love because of you. I’m sorry with every fiber of my being.
Last updated on:2025-09-17T20:36:17+05:30
Comments (4)
not feeling attracted to him will always bother you, you will always feel there's something missing, his presence wouldn't be enough,his attention wouldn't be enough even his careing behaviour wouldn't satisfy or fill that lack in your heart and eyes.
you did the right thing,
if we respect someone we must respect his values and boundaries, if we didn't that means we really don't appreciate them that much.
sometimes it’s both things at once… they can be kind and still not the right person for you. guilt shows you cared but it doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice.
i felt this hard. i broke up with someone who treated me well but i just didn’t feel that attraction. i carried guilt for a long time, like i owed him more than i actually did.
He does sound like he really cares for you and if you think you could get more attracted to him, maybe it's worth a shot. Remember that appearance is a temporary thing in life, so also think about it if you match across different aspects of life. But he does sound sorry, and it also depends how major was the boundary he crossed...