It has been three weeks since he left the office, but I still see little reminders of him everywhere. On my computer, there is still a folder with his name that holds some of his files, and it always makes me think of him. Even in casual conversations, my officemates sometimes ask how he is doing or tease me about him, and I just try to pretend that everything's fine. We only broke up four days ago, and it still hurts too much to say out loud. I know I would break down if I tried to explain everything.
Every day feels like a struggle. I try to look okay, but inside I feel so heavy. There were times when I cried in the restroom just to let it out, because pretending to be fine takes so much energy. I wish I could resign early just to escape from all of this, but I know I can’t since my contract doesn’t end until the last day of October. For now, I just have to endure and hope that little by little, the pain will fade.
Last updated on:2025-09-22T10:37:48+05:30
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I think if you confided in one or more of them, they would be supportive and you need that right now. It would also make you feel better to get it off your chest.
They dont ask you to pretend that you are fine. That is want you think. Tell them about how is was so they can support you when you feel sad. I know how you feel. I were together with my boyfriend and coworker for over 2 years. I had to tell my coworkers about his behaviour and how much pain he did to me. And I cried my eyes out. As it seemed they had problems with him for years, they never wanted to hire him but our boss didnt listen. My coworkers never told me out what intuition they had , that something was wrong with him beacause I was in love, and he was excellent to manipulate other people. Tell them whats going on! someone maby already knows. You need a support system to talk and lean on so you dont feel alone in this.
is there anything at work you can hide or rename for now so it doesn’t ambush you every day?
I placed his folder inside another one on my PC so I wouldn’t see it. But since I often switch PCs with my coworkers whenever I need to render something (my own can’t handle heavy software), I still end up coming across his folder on their computers.
what helped me was doing tiny, quiet things that felt like taking my space back — move the folder, change filenames, mute the chats, steal a five minute walk when it all gets too heavy. small wins add up.
I already hid his folder on my PC haha, but the problem is I still see it whenever I use other PCs. Since we often switch computers in the office for rendering, his folder keeps showing up, and I can’t even rename it hahaha.
same. i had an ex’s name stuck to a shared drive and every time i opened it my chest dropped. cried in the bathroom stalls too. pretending to be fine is exhausting.
I'm sorry you had to go through this too 😢 how did you manage to move on?