I live alone a long time from now (like almost 10 years). But all this time I was always in a relationship (the first one was almost 8 years and this last one it was about 10 months, but very intense and it was even one day between both. because the first one was very in the endz it was more friendship than romantic). And they used to sleep at my place weekly or every other week. I had already some concentration problems but never questioned myself about living alone. for me was natural bc I didn't want to live with my mother and our relationship got better after living apart. But now with the breakup (it's been a long long time since I don't have a girl or boyfriend) I kind of lose myself and nothing makes sense anymore. I'm trying to prepare myself to apply to master's degree (he helped me with this idea and cheered me up to persue this, but he didn't help like he promised). it's been really difficult because of the lack of concentration and I kind thing that I'm not capable of living alone and they helped me to deal with this. but I don't know if it's just a thing that gonna pass or the fear is real and I'm not capable of it (and it gives more fear bc for the master's I'm gonna have to live alone in another country for 2 years). I'm without contacting him for 16 days. I'm getting help of my friends, sending voice notes, asking for help and doing my best. And doing a lot of activities besides my job and my freelancers. Already asked my mother to stay 2 days at my place and now my friend said it's gonna stay for 2 days next week. But I'm afraid this fear is not gonna pass. I'm 30y old.
Last updated on:2025-09-18T23:57:07+05:30
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you feel like it’s the loneliness that scares you most, or more the thought of losing structure without someone there?
I think it's more the second option bc of some emotional codependence problem I put the other in first place, not me 😞
what helped me when i felt like i couldn’t handle the silence was creating little routines. even dumb stuff like cooking the same meal on sundays or calling a friend at night. it grounded me.
i get this so much. after my relationship ended i couldn’t even sit in my own apartment without panicking. i thought i wasn’t built for living alone either but slowly i learned i was.
Yes, I myself and some of my friends went through it. millions of people have. its very hard and you will feel like shit for a while but with proporer techniques it will get better. I think I can recommend Mel Robbins podcast episode on break up. it should be a good start, really! it's on different platforms, around 1h30mins of grest content.
thank you for the reply 🥹
*how many time healed from this feelings of fear
I want to know if someone already passed through this and how many time.