Today is my birthday and he wished me in the friends group. All our friends are with me expect him as he went to his hometown but still he sent a happy birthday message to me on the group tagging me. I thought I could take it and I'll be fine with it but it clearly effects me as I'm unable to stop thinking about him. I think it triggered something in me. I don't know how to feel okay. I don't wanna think of all that on my birthday and make my day bad but I already started thinking and it's making me sad 😢
Last updated on:2025-09-22T17:12:54+05:30
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my birthday is on 5th october i wish he text me even if it just to be nice , i need his attention 😔💔
will he?
I had to live in our home going through our divorce on my birthday this year. I didn't even make my favorite cake like I always do. He told me he was going to get me something, but I told him I didn't want anything. He broke down and started crying even though he wanted the divorce and was cheating on me. I made cake with my mom a couple of months later after I moved into my apartment. Try not to let it get to you. It's your day, and I agree with others. Block him and go no contact. It's worth it.
I get it. but I can't block and go no contact as we work in same company and we are in the same friend group
I hope you celebrated with friends and didn't let it ruin your special day.
yes I did have a nice day with friends and family. I am happy
but somewhere I felt it would have been different and nice if he was also a part of it
I was triggered by my ex this week and it has really messed me up. I'm still not OK. I finally had to block him for my own sanity. I'm on 90 days of no contact and I plan to keep it that way. I made my fb where he can't see anything unless I want him to. Maybe it bothered him that I don't respond to his text messages and he wonders how I'm doing or maybe he doesn't care. Who knows, but I cannot waste any more time dwelling on it. It felt good to block him. I hope I can finally get some peace.
Yes this needs a lot of courage to do. what you did was right and I hope you'll get over him and find peace and happiness
@Tryin2BOkay thank you 🫶
Think about the is only reaching out to get a reaction from you. You search for validation that he cares and think about you. Its all a game to keep you trauma bonded. I wants a reaction beacause HE needs to see that you love and still miss him. Its all a mindgame. Do not answer, do not fall in his trap, he is waiting for you to do that, and THEN he gets The power over you back. !!
Yes I somehow felt I was giving all the power to him so I stopped reaching out and also showing that I care
do you feel like it was the message itself that hurt, or more the fact that he wasn’t there and everyone else was?
I think the way he tried to send a text in a group chat kind of felt like oh so this is where we stand. and yeah I wish things were different so it hurt that way
so I guess I shouldn't wish my ex happy birthday. her birthday is at 24th September 🥲
I guess it depends on what she feels. if she's hurt and still trying to move on, it's better not to reopen that wound right?
i get it. for me, whenever i catch myself looping on them on a day that’s supposed to be about me, i try to step outside, breathe, and distract with people who actually show up for me.
Yes I'm trying to do the same. I went out with friends and meet my family
Happy Birthday! Dont be sad!
Thank you❤️
this hurt to read. on my last birthday my ex texted me “happy bday” too and i spiraled. i thought i was fine but that one little message just cracked me open again. birthdays are weird like that ❤️
So true.. I thought I'll be fine like who cares if he texts or not but when I saw his text, something triggered and I couldn't digest.
Same thing happened to me on my birthday in June.
my birthday will be this 23 and I don't want to receive any greetings from him but we work on the same company and I know the HR will post it. I hope you're doing okay now, I know it's hard for you especially on your birthday, it should be a happy day for you but you kept on overthinking. but today I hope you're doing good, and I wish you all the best
Thank you, I am trying to be happy and leave that behind me