Been a month since we broke up but i kept chasing him, pull n push this month. And he finally blocked on social media n phone number except for telegram and discord. He told me not to call him unless emergency, but i still did so he blocked me.
He never block anyone, not even his exes. But he blocked me. His exes only lasted for like 4-5months, his friend circle is small but he always desperate for making new friends when he was with me, even deprioritized me for a friend he just made in a week which caused us to breakup the first time, i forgave and gave another chance. Idk why is he so desperate for new people validation, i understand hes young, 21yo and the urge to socialise is strong. He was always immature and avoidant, always argue and blame me when i try to talk about us or his past.
But we got a super heated argument last month and he broke up with me for good. He came back after few days and gone again. But i kept chasing him on and off til the point him blocking me now. He blocked me the first week and unblocked me. I'm not sure about now...
Ik hes hurting and still love me. He told me doesn't want me anymore and doesn't love me anymore but ik its impossible, cuz his action said otherwise.
Rn im trying to move on, but learning his behavior, ik he would come back, leaving breadcrumbs etc. I wna move on but this thought of knowing he would come back when hes done with his "space", preventing me to move on.
I still love him, ik he wants to change and he tried. But it consumed him cuz he didn't have enough mental capacity.
Do you guys have any experience with an avoidant ex that kept coming back?
Last updated on:2025-09-29T11:44:09+05:30
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to be honest I read your post and I’m sorry to say your ex is a narcissist and
this can be very dangerous for your mental health and not only (u said he was physical
with you) narcissists don’t feel
empathy the need for more new friends the manipulation he is don’t won’t u narcissts all the way. u need to stay away from him especially since it’s obvious u have a very anxious attachment styl how u keep chasing him. please trust the are secure good guys out there u yourself are soo hurt need someone good who will protect u and care for you please maintain the no contact there are millions of better partners protect yourself from ppl like that u deserve soo much better ❤️
when he comes back, does it actually feel good long term, or is it more like a short rush that fades quick?
We broken up 3 times the past 9 months. The first time, he came back and apologised, lasted for 2 months. Then i asked to breakup again cuz he was still immature and he threatened to k*ll himself and pulled my hair to stay, so i did for another 2-3 months. Then last month we got into heated argument and he slapped me and left me. 3 days after he came back apologised and we didnt get back together but we still talked. 2 days then we argued again and he left me until now. I've been chasing him til now but i quit. Moving on.
what helped me was stopping the maybe he’ll come back loop in my head. even if he did, it never stuck. i had to start treating the block like a gift to myself.
yeah i had an avoidant ex too. every fight he’d push me away then circle back like nothing happened. it kept me hooked for months. that back and forth broke me more than the breakup itself.