my ex and I broke up almost 3 months ago and I kept no contact for 3 months until recently I sent a text to her and she replied we started talking again and she said we can still be friends. after 3 days she told me that she can't pretend to be friends anymore cuz we were never friends to begin with. she told me she still loves me and thinks of me all the time and she still has all the things I've ever gave her. but also she says that she doesn't wanna get back together.
ofcourse I respected her choice and didn't pressured or forced her into getting back with me. we had a nice long conversation and answered everything that was on our minds to eachother and then said good byes.
but I miss her. I still love her. I know she doesn't wanna get back with me but I just can't stop thinking about her. the memories we shared and all the conversation we had. it's just too difficult at times.
maybe because I don't have a negative perspective of them. she did nothing wrong. she was genuinely an amazing person and we both shared an amazing time together. maybe that's why it's difficult.
anyways I'd love to know someone whos going through something similar.
Last updated on:2025-09-19T05:42:03+05:30
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you think what you miss more is her, or the feeling you had when you were with her
sometimes what helps me is letting myself feel the missing without making it mean we should be together. love can exist and still not be right.
that's what I'm doing rn too
yeah man i went through this too. my ex told me she still loved me but couldn’t do us anymore. it was brutal because she wasn’t toxic just… gone. missing someone good hits different.
something here brother. how long since U guys broke up?
my man and I we still know we love each other, he even still gets turned on by me. However, he broke up with me because he is drained from the relationship, and he said he wants to be alone right now. it's just super hard, I miss him, I know he wouldn't smile and be himself unless around me. I don't know if he misses me or not, a day he talks to me another he just dry and doesn't message first at all. Now m initiating no contact to see if he can message first. We said we will be 'no label' and enjoy the love until he's ready to be in a relationship with me again, that day we flirted hardly but the day after he left me on seen. It's super frustrating, I'm almost at the same boat as you. Why doesn't she wanna try again?
well I don't know she never told me why exactly. we had a silly fight over a movie we were watching together and we both had a fight. shortly afterwards we both realized that it was a stupid fight and got along. but after a week she came to me and tells me that she can't be with me anymore because of the fight we had the other day. I tried to apologise to her, explain to her that it was a stupid fight and we were both hurt and it doesn't mean I don't love U or anything. but she just said that after that fight she just can't stop thinking about it and "I try to be a good girlfriend to U and give U the love in return that U give me but lately whenever we talk the fight plays back in my mind and I just cant stop thinking about it and it ruins the mood and it just feels terrible to know that your so happy but i cannot let go of the fight". she suggested we break up. I tried my best to explain it to her and apologize and everything but she wouldn't budge. so I felt betrayed and had a fight again. we both fought and she ended up blocking me.
after a month she unblocked me but I wasn't sure if I should reach out to her or not but after 3 months (last week)I reached out to her and apologized for everything she responded and we had a conversation. I told her that I miss her and ii wanna get back together but she just said that she can't and doesn't want to because it won't work out. I suggested we stay friends and she agreed but after 3 days she told me that she can't pretend to be friends cuz she still has feelings for me and knows that I have them too. I told her again to get back together but to her that doesn't seem like an option for some reason. she tells me she loves and misses me and remembers our memories together but also say that we can't. be. together.
well we just had a long conversation and ended things on a good nite and said good bye to eachother and she. blocked me again