DID I DO THE RIGHT THING BY BREAKING UP

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my boyfriend has been acting weird like, he has changed and all .sometimes I don't want to be intimate but he still forces me anyway, I told him I hate he drinks and he said he'll stop but he still continues to do that.He panicked when he realised I had his phone and grabbed it, he even deletes WhatsApp when am with him.my conscious knows something is up.he rarely talks to me like he did before. Everytime I try to leave he reminds me of the good times we had but I just don't feel loved anymore and it hurts so much that he can't see he hurts me but i love him and can't find it in me to leave

Last updated on:2025-09-19T10:52:26+05:30

Comments (11)

Gooderwill
Gooderwill 5 mths ago

when he forces intimacy even after you say no… how does that make you feel about yourself and the relationship deep down?

ZappyJet918
ZappyJet918 5 mths ago

I hate myself because am a Christian and I condemn myself like I feel am being lukewarm and not following the word of God

ChillFun783
ChillFun783 6 mths ago

They NEVER change. It's all an illusion. You serve a selfish purpose for him, supply, and he will not ever let go as long as you "feed" him. From the sound of it, you are trying to normalize really abusive behavior. You deserve so much better!

ZappyJet918
ZappyJet918 6 mths ago

Thank you

speedbreaker
speedbreaker 6 mths ago

sometimes love makes us hold on longer than we should, but if you don’t feel safe or respected, that’s real. it’s okay to admit this isn’t the same anymore.

ZappyJet918
ZappyJet918 6 mths ago

yeah I guess so huh

imcream
imcream 6 mths ago

i went through this too. my ex would guilt me with remember the good times every time i wanted to leave. he also hid his phone, drank too much and ignored my boundaries. i felt trapped between love and pain.

ZappyJet918
ZappyJet918 6 mths ago

what did you do about it cause am struggling to accept it ended and don't know what to do because I really love him.i just wish we could be us again and love me better

NestFog30
NestFog30 6 mths ago

When did u break up

ZappyJet918
ZappyJet918 6 mths ago

I did it yesterday

NestFog30
NestFog30 6 mths ago

@ZappyJet918 If he has not physically hurt you and if he drinks a lot, maybe you both need to sit down and do couples counseling. No contact is painful if you love each other and see a future together, so try to fix things before breaking up