what is happening to me

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i know he's never coming back, that he doesnt think of me or care. but my god why is he constantly in my head and thoughts?? I had a friggen dream about him last night. and the dream wasnt even a happy one, it was hurtful and more of his dismissive, cruel behavior.
why. cant. I. let. him. go.

Last updated on:2025-09-22T09:51:33+05:30

Comments (11)

tessy012
tessy012 5 mths ago

are you still seeing stuff from him online or around you? or is it the memories that keep dragging you back?

DreamyMe449
DreamyMe449 5 mths ago

the memories keep pulling me back

Lunabibo
Lunabibo 5 mths ago

what helped me was dumping the dream into a quick journal, blocking his socials for a bit, and doing one small ritual to mark the day i choose me. not magic, but it eased the loop.

DreamyMe449
DreamyMe449 5 mths ago

he blocked me on everything and so did I finally. but we attend the same university and we live in the same building...

muvonna
muvonna 5 mths ago

same. i hated that my brain kept replaying him like a broken song, and dreams felt like fresh wounds. it’s wild how your head refuses to believe your heart did the math. 😩

SadFox
SadFox 6 mths ago

my therapist described a breakup like detoxing, because your body gets used to their presence, the comfort the routines... and like all detoxes it takes time before you start to feel better

SadFox
SadFox 6 mths ago

Im still having the dreams too, but im 17 days into no contact and my thoughts are starting to focus on other things finally. I still think about him a lot but its less painful and I also can focus on other things throughout my day

DreamyMe449
DreamyMe449 6 mths ago

i just dont understand why he's all I can think abt, have a literal dream abt, when i KNOW he is not a good person. I know i deserve better. but im just so stuck

SadFox
SadFox 5 mths ago

@DreamyMe449 the dreams are so normal! your brain is still thinking about what you've been going through while you sleep, its trying to work everything out. have you tried Journaling? I just dump all my thoughts about him into my journal and it helps get everything out of my head

Iwant2BeOk
Iwant2BeOk 6 mths ago

same too, I keep breaking no contact 😭

Arbaz
Arbaz 6 mths ago

I know what your feeling. I wish I had a solution to this problem but the only thing U can do is wait. let time do it's thing.
I haver the same dreams, the conversations go through my mind, her voice is almost always present in my mind. but it is what it is...
it'll get better. your not alone