My now ex boyfriend broke up with me on Tuesday this week. we were having lots of communication problems in our long distance-relationship. I was supposed to move in with him in a month. It was an awful break-up and I spent the last few days crying.
Yesterday, he called me and told me I could move in with him as a trial if I changed certain behaviors (respecting his space, leaving him alone after fights), he would try to change as well.
I told him that I cant just forget about the break-up. if he was living near me, I might have said yes, but hes living abroad. its too much for me right now. I need him to be sure about the relationship to move to a foreign country for him. i know hes not sure.
Now I feel as if I had ended the relationship even though I did not. I'm starting to fantasize about writing to him and trying to make it work, but I know right now that's a bad idea
Last updated on:2025-09-25T01:24:52+05:30
Comments (7)
have you thought about what you really want long-term, not just what might work if he changes? sometimes that helps quiet the what-ifs
thanks for your advice. I decided that no contact and taking space is the right thing to do for me right now so I can figure out what I really want... I think I lost it out of sight
it’s okay to feel torn, especially with moving abroad involved. giving yourself space and clarity before reaching out is honestly the healthiest move right now
ugh yes i’ve been there 😭 i broke up with my long-distance ex and kept fantasizing about fixing things… but i had to step back or i’d have lost myself completely
I'll try to step back too.. :( it feels horrible right now but I know I'd loose myself too if I kept trying..was the break-uo with your ex long ago and do you feel better now?
You two need to talk more maybe there's a solution.
thanks for your opinion, maybe you're right.. maybe we should calm down, take a break and try to find a solution. I know we both love each other, the distance has just been so hard and he hates phone calls, video calls, texting, which doesn't make it easier