Whenever I am silent or not doing anything just to enjoy nature or trying to sleep, my thoughts go to him..like the time we had and if I did something different then how would that be and how is he feeling about me and all. so I either doom scroll which numbs my thoughts or do some work or sleep or go out. but these days I am trying to sit with myself and embrace my surroundings. so this is triggering my thoughts about him. is there a way I can stop or this is the process or shall I doom scroll?
Last updated on:2025-09-24T14:41:08+05:30
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are you finding moments where you can just sit without spiraling at all, even a little? sometimes noticing just ONE peaceful moment helps break the loop
No I am unable to
it’s totally normal for your mind to wander, especially when you’re alone. try focusing on small things around you or journaling instead of doom scrolling—it numbs the thoughts more than helps
Yeah I should start journaling
ugh i’ve been there 😩 i used to spiral thinking about every “what if” too, doom scrolling all night… it helped me to just step outside and breathe, even if my brain freaked out
yeah it gives me anxiety all the time due to these thoughts
when these thoughts hit, do you notice if certain triggers make them worse? sometimes knowing the pattern helps me pause before i spiral 😔
every single time I am idle with myself
allow yourself time to grief and heal in time your thoughts will decrease
sitting with your thoughts is normal, even painful. i found it helped to let myself feel it fully instead of doom scrolling—eventually it gets easier ❤️
Start naming things in your surrounding. go for a walk or something
ugh yes, i’ve been there 😩 i used to replay everything about him whenever i was alone, it’s so hard to just sit quietly without your mind spinning 💔
I am in the same spot. When I am ideal, my mind goes to thoughts of him. And I doom scroll to find something that will make me laugh and let the moment pass. Take it one moment at a time but try not to let that moment overwhelm you or cripple you.
I think it's okay to feel it and think about him from time to time, it's a part of processing, but maybe don't give it too much time (like set a few minutes when you can think about him how much you want and after it passes try doing something else)