I read a post that said; healing arrives for everyone. One day it is "no contact" and then one year later, you can't remember why you liked them in the first place. There's no shame in being attached to another person. Human attachment is a core part of being human. Without attachment we wouldn't be here. Humanity is sustained by our capacity to love and connect with each other.
On my part, I really needed to hear this!
Last updated on:2025-09-24T10:12:13+05:30
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i’m curious, what part of this resonated the most with you? the no contact part or just the reminder that attachment is human?
I think both. Right now healing feels heavy, in a year, I'll probably not remember why it felt so difficult to move on. Then the other part is a reminder that at the end of the day, we are still human and attachment is part of it
I think attachment grows from the hope our mind creates that the person we love feels the same longing and remembers the same moments. In my past relationship, I got over it quickly because I accepted that he had moved on and was dating someone else. When I saw them with my own eyes, my longing and desire for him faded. But in my last relationship, because of his distance and the lack of news about him, I started craving anything from him, and my mind kept telling me that he misses me too. That’s why it feels like only one day has passed since our breakup, even though it’s been almost three months.
I totally agree with this. I blocked this guy and I went no contact but a part of me feels like I'd have healed faster if I hadn't blocked him
this really hits sometimes just letting yourself FEEL and not shame your attachment helps more than forcing it. healing sneaks up on you when you least expect it ❤️
Yeah it feels wrong and even shameful to have loved someone and gotten attached when you don't get the same back
ugh yes, i needed this too 😭 i’ve been clinging to memories and it felt so heavy, but reading this made me feel like it’s okay to have loved 💔
There's no shame in having truly loved someone