We were in a long-distance relationship for 3 years. I moved to a new country to finally be with her and build a future together. But when I arrived she seemed unhappy.
Two months later while I was on holiday she broke up with me over the phone. It’s been five weeks of no contact no and I’m trying to move on.
Still I don’t want the breakup to erase the friendship we had. I’ve accepted that she doesn’t love me the way she used to.
But is it foolish to still want to be friends? Because part of me misses that connectio even if the relationship didn’t work out.
Last updated on:2025-11-07T09:43:54+05:30
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I was long distant with my ex. she lived in England and me in America. I was going to move there, 2 years together and now she’s off seeing someone new acting like I was nothing. it sucks and it hurts. I also want to be friends with her but sometimes I try and figure out if maybe me wanting to be friends is more so that I can still have her in my life in some capacity
do you feel like wanting friendship is about her specifically, or more about missing the comfort of having someone familiar close?
I don't think so it'll be good for you. Give yourself space. Don't be friends. Not now atleast. Maybe after 6 months or a year you can think about it.
i think it’s not foolish to want friendship, but it’s usually too raw right after. what helped me was giving it time before trying to reconnect.
i felt this deep. i moved cities once for my ex too and when it fell apart i clung to the idea of at least we can stay friends. honestly the longing for connection was harder than the breakup itself.